Reunite Grandchildren and Grandparents in California
Target:
California State Legislature
All across California there are thousands of children who are being denied access and contact with their loving and caring Grandparents (GP). Some of the children have spent a large part of their lives with the GP before all visitation was denied. Many times this is the result of parents involved with drugs or crime.
California law promotes the right of FIT parents to raise childern without government interference. To ensure this 14th amendment right, Family Code 3104(e) assumes that FIT parents will do what is in the best interest of the child. 3104 states that for GP to have visition over the objection of a parent, GP must prove that child will be harmed without GP visitation, a high legal barrier.
The Courts know the inherent goodness a GP relationship can provide and that some parents are denying GP access to children for vindictive, retaliatory, and other reasons not in the best interest of the child.
THIS PETITION will provide a means of rebutting the parents' decision to deny access, if it is based on other than the child's best interest. It will require the mandatory psychological evaluation of both parents and GPs at the initial court appearance. The results will provide the Court with information in regard to the parents' fitness in making the decision and whether or not Court intervention is needed.
California law promotes the right of FIT parents to raise childern without government interference. To ensure this 14th amendment right, Family Code 3104(e) assumes that FIT parents will do what is in the best interest of the child. 3104 states that for GP to have visition over the objection of a parent, GP must prove that child will be harmed without GP visitation, a high legal barrier.
The Courts know the inherent goodness a GP relationship can provide and that some parents are denying GP access to children for vindictive, retaliatory, and other reasons not in the best interest of the child.
THIS PETITION will provide a means of rebutting the parents' decision to deny access, if it is based on other than the child's best interest. It will require the mandatory psychological evaluation of both parents and GPs at the initial court appearance. The results will provide the Court with information in regard to the parents' fitness in making the decision and whether or not Court intervention is needed.
All across California there are thousands of children who are being denied access and contact with their loving and caring Grandparents (GP). Some of the children have spent a large part of their lives with the GP before all visitation was denied. Many times this is the result of parents involved with drugs or crime.
California law promotes the right of FIT parents to raise childern without government interference. To ensure this 14th amendment right, Family Code 3104(e) assumes that FIT parents will do what is in the best interest of the child. 3104 states that for GP to have visition over the objection of a parent, GP must prove that child will be harmed without GP visitation, a high legal barrier.
The Courts know the inherent goodness a GP relationship can provide and that some parents are denying GP access to children for vindictive, retaliatory, and other reasons not in the best interest of the child.
THIS PETITION will provide a means of rebutting the parents' decision to deny access, if it is based on other than the child's best interest. It will require the mandatory psychological evaluation of both parents and GPs at the initial court appearance. The results will provide the Court with information in regard to the parents' fitness in making the decision and whether or not Court intervention is needed.
California law promotes the right of FIT parents to raise childern without government interference. To ensure this 14th amendment right, Family Code 3104(e) assumes that FIT parents will do what is in the best interest of the child. 3104 states that for GP to have visition over the objection of a parent, GP must prove that child will be harmed without GP visitation, a high legal barrier.
The Courts know the inherent goodness a GP relationship can provide and that some parents are denying GP access to children for vindictive, retaliatory, and other reasons not in the best interest of the child.
THIS PETITION will provide a means of rebutting the parents' decision to deny access, if it is based on other than the child's best interest. It will require the mandatory psychological evaluation of both parents and GPs at the initial court appearance. The results will provide the Court with information in regard to the parents' fitness in making the decision and whether or not Court intervention is needed.
We, the undersigned, firmly believe that the world would be a better place if Grandchildren and Grandparents that have been separated unjustly were to be REUNITED.
This separation is very widespread across the country, impacting thousands of lives, all in the name of 14th Amendment rights.
Our Legislative amendment would provide the courts the information they need, at the very begining of a visitation case, to determine if parents are acting genuinely in the best interest of the child, or are disallowing visitation for retaliatory, vindictive, or some other agenda.
If Court interference is needed, it could proceed in a timely manner so children are impacted less from the separation. Presently, it may take years to work through the process. The important 14th amendment would be preserved with the early determination of whether or not Court intervention is needed based on the reasoning of the denial of visitation.
Thanks for listening.
We signed the "Reunite Grandchildren and Grandparents in California" petition!
# 976:
12:47 pm PST, Feb 8,
Name not displayed, Montana
I was present for the births of both my grandsons and visited them as often as possible (at least once a month) for the first few years of their lives, until I was forced, by illness and resulting financial ruin, to move to a less expensive state. The loss of my grandsons, and theirs of me, has been extremely difficult, so any kind of contact (phone calls, letters, webcam visit) means a lot. I have been dealing with Lyme disease for 7 years with very little family support -- now the older of the two boys recognizes that something is wrong with this scenario, so now my daughter has threatened that I will "never get to see the boys again, won't get invited to their graduations or weddings" etc (they are ages 4 and 6 now.) I hope to have some legal recourse.
I was present for the births of both my grandsons and visited them as often as possible (at least once a month) for the first few years of their lives, until I was forced, by illness and resulting financial ruin, to move to a less expensive state. The loss of my grandsons, and theirs of me, has been extremely difficult, so any kind of contact (phone calls, letters, webcam visit) means a lot. I have been dealing with Lyme disease for 7 years with very little family support -- now the older of the two boys recognizes that something is wrong with this scenario, so now my daughter has threatened that I will "never get to see the boys again, won't get invited to their graduations or weddings" etc (they are ages 4 and 6 now.) I hope to have some legal recourse.
# 975:
8:33 pm PST, Feb 6,
Barbara Eldridge, California
I moved from Missouri to San Diego to see my grandchildren grow up but my daughter and son-in-law had a falling-out and now I am not allowed to see my grandchildren at all. I have given up everything to be out here with them and my grandkids love me and miss me very much and I feel the same. Please help.
I moved from Missouri to San Diego to see my grandchildren grow up but my daughter and son-in-law had a falling-out and now I am not allowed to see my grandchildren at all. I have given up everything to be out here with them and my grandkids love me and miss me very much and I feel the same. Please help.
# 974:
12:44 pm PST, Feb 4,
Raji Rykert, California
I have been denied access to my two grandchildren by my oldest daughter who has a long history of legal issues and overall mental instability. She is now with husband #4 and they are "playing house" but not permitting me to see my granchildren (who are ages 9 and 4 and are from the other 2 men she lived with at different periods). We are the only stability our grandchildren have and now she is retaliating against us by not permitting us to visit or see them.
I have been denied access to my two grandchildren by my oldest daughter who has a long history of legal issues and overall mental instability. She is now with husband #4 and they are "playing house" but not permitting me to see my granchildren (who are ages 9 and 4 and are from the other 2 men she lived with at different periods). We are the only stability our grandchildren have and now she is retaliating against us by not permitting us to visit or see them.
# 973:
1:22 pm PST, Feb 2,
Name not displayed, California
# 972:
2:22 am PST, Jan 31,
Sharon Hall, California
I grew up without the love or support of my Grandparents as they had passed away before I was born. There will always be a huge void in my heart for the love, support, laughter, relationship, and joy that knowing my Grandparents could have given me. I feel that children are a gift to a marriage. Grandparents are a gift from God to assist parents in the up-bringing of these gifts/children. Any loving contact that a child has during their up-bringing leaves a beautiful imprint that is passed down to their children and so on. Please allow this beaufitul gift from God to touch the heart and soul of a child. Please give the gift of family to every child so we can build love and togetherness instead of hurt and hatred. Thank you!
I grew up without the love or support of my Grandparents as they had passed away before I was born. There will always be a huge void in my heart for the love, support, laughter, relationship, and joy that knowing my Grandparents could have given me. I feel that children are a gift to a marriage. Grandparents are a gift from God to assist parents in the up-bringing of these gifts/children. Any loving contact that a child has during their up-bringing leaves a beautiful imprint that is passed down to their children and so on. Please allow this beaufitul gift from God to touch the heart and soul of a child. Please give the gift of family to every child so we can build love and togetherness instead of hurt and hatred. Thank you!
# 971:
11:08 pm PST, Jan 30,
Dennis Zuber, California
I support the rights of grandparents to spend time with their grandchildren. Grandparents provide a healthy bond for their grandchildren. Please support this amendment.
I support the rights of grandparents to spend time with their grandchildren. Grandparents provide a healthy bond for their grandchildren. Please support this amendment.
# 970:
8:41 pm PST, Jan 29,
Lydia Leong, California
# 969:
3:51 pm PST, Jan 29,
Name not displayed, California
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# 968:
11:34 am PST, Jan 28,
Name not displayed, California
# 967:
10:51 pm PST, Jan 27,
Gina S, California
# 966:
12:01 pm PST, Jan 27,
Pat Gonzales, California
I am being deprived of seeing my three granddaughters. I have made every effort to visit but my daughter in law does not want me around, I do not drink or smoke and I am not harmful to my granddaughters.
I am being deprived of seeing my three granddaughters. I have made every effort to visit but my daughter in law does not want me around, I do not drink or smoke and I am not harmful to my granddaughters.
# 965:
8:46 am PST, Jan 27,
Irene Flemming, California
# 964:
8:13 pm PST, Jan 26,
Forrest Salfen, California
Grandparents NEED their Grandchildren as much as Grandchildren NEED their Grandparents. Divorces should NEVER upset the quality, quantity and scope of the love that Grandparents NEED to give to their Grandchildren regardless of family divorces. When the parents and a divorced Grandparent team together to deny the other Grandparent visitation of his Grandchildren (who have ALWAYS been the pumpkins of his eye beginning with the first glimpse of them five minutes after their birth) as a punishment to the divorced and alienated Grandparent, EVERYONE suffers. Most importantly the Grandchildren who now have the first of life’s big void thrust into their young lives, of which they are too young to understand and hurts them in ways they cannot understand. The love of a Grandparents "pumpkins" doesn't just end due to a dishonest, vindictive and controlling divorced Grandparent and her son and daughter-in-law's desire to use the Grandchildren as pawns in an effort to emotionally hurt and destroy the love the Grandparent has for his Grandchildren, as well as the love those beautiful Grandchildren have for their Pop-Pop. That love, given without qualification, will carry on within us but will not be fulfilled unless the laws are changed to right this wrong. This legislative provision MUST be passed and put into effect as soon as possible to reunite the hundreds or thousands of us out there who have had this love denied to us and literally ripped out of our heart and soul that God has given to all of us as Grandparents to smother each and every one of our own "pumpkins" as only God intended. I URGE everyone to please take a moment and sign this petition in the effort to restore all the love that our Grandchildren give to us unequivocally, as well as the love that the alienated Grandparents so deeply desire to give to our Grandchildren unequivocally, but are being denied this God-given right due to short-sighted and mean-spirited Grandparents ex-wives and the Grandchildren’s parents.
Grandparents NEED their Grandchildren as much as Grandchildren NEED their Grandparents. Divorces should NEVER upset the quality, quantity and scope of the love that Grandparents NEED to give to their Grandchildren regardless of family divorces. When the parents and a divorced Grandparent team together to deny the other Grandparent visitation of his Grandchildren (who have ALWAYS been the pumpkins of his eye beginning with the first glimpse of them five minutes after their birth) as a punishment to the divorced and alienated Grandparent, EVERYONE suffers. Most importantly the Grandchildren who now have the first of life’s big void thrust into their young lives, of which they are too young to understand and hurts them in ways they cannot understand. The love of a Grandparents "pumpkins" doesn't just end due to a dishonest, vindictive and controlling divorced Grandparent and her son and daughter-in-law's desire to use the Grandchildren as pawns in an effort to emotionally hurt and destroy the love the Grandparent has for his Grandchildren, as well as the love those beautiful Grandchildren have for their Pop-Pop. That love, given without qualification, will carry on within us but will not be fulfilled unless the laws are changed to right this wrong. This legislative provision MUST be passed and put into effect as soon as possible to reunite the hundreds or thousands of us out there who have had this love denied to us and literally ripped out of our heart and soul that God has given to all of us as Grandparents to smother each and every one of our own "pumpkins" as only God intended. I URGE everyone to please take a moment and sign this petition in the effort to restore all the love that our Grandchildren give to us unequivocally, as well as the love that the alienated Grandparents so deeply desire to give to our Grandchildren unequivocally, but are being denied this God-given right due to short-sighted and mean-spirited Grandparents ex-wives and the Grandchildren’s parents.
# 963:
10:20 pm PST, Jan 25,
Marsha Gentry, California
I used to babysit my grandkids, and they love me so much. Anytime there was a disagreement between my son's wife and me, she withheld the kids from me. My son didn't believe what she was doing. A year ago he told me what a wonderful mother and grandmother I am. Things got really bad after my grandson told me his mommy hit him in the face. He was only four and he had a scab on his nose that he said was from Mommy's ring. I told my son who got upset with her, but she was able to convince him that I somehow coached my grandson. I haven't been able to see the new baby. I bought Christmas gifts for all of them, but she returned my Christmas card. I love my grandkids so much. I went through so much with my son as he grew up; I thought I'd finally been rewarded with grandchildren.
I used to babysit my grandkids, and they love me so much. Anytime there was a disagreement between my son's wife and me, she withheld the kids from me. My son didn't believe what she was doing. A year ago he told me what a wonderful mother and grandmother I am. Things got really bad after my grandson told me his mommy hit him in the face. He was only four and he had a scab on his nose that he said was from Mommy's ring. I told my son who got upset with her, but she was able to convince him that I somehow coached my grandson. I haven't been able to see the new baby. I bought Christmas gifts for all of them, but she returned my Christmas card. I love my grandkids so much. I went through so much with my son as he grew up; I thought I'd finally been rewarded with grandchildren.
# 962:
6:55 pm PST, Jan 25,
Kellee Lucas- Corsaletti, California
The father of my granddaughter won't let me see her because my daughter won't have a relationship with him. I went from every week seeing her to never seeing her again.
The father of my granddaughter won't let me see her because my daughter won't have a relationship with him. I went from every week seeing her to never seeing her again.
# 961:
8:08 pm PST, Jan 21,
Mary Brooks, California
My daughter lost custody of her 12 year old son last April, the bio dad will not let us see him since she is staying at our home. We told him she would leave the home so that we could see him, he still refuses to let us see him. I have been with this child since he was born, he was born 6 weeks early, he has been the light of our lives since his birth. My husband is a retired fire fighter, and we are both elected officials in our community, we are good people, and don't have a record, drug or alcohol abuse. Please help us, other grand parents, and our grand children, who are suffering at the hands of a vindictive custodial parent to have visitation laws changed. Mary Brooks PO Box 63 San Miguel CA 93451
My daughter lost custody of her 12 year old son last April, the bio dad will not let us see him since she is staying at our home. We told him she would leave the home so that we could see him, he still refuses to let us see him. I have been with this child since he was born, he was born 6 weeks early, he has been the light of our lives since his birth. My husband is a retired fire fighter, and we are both elected officials in our community, we are good people, and don't have a record, drug or alcohol abuse. Please help us, other grand parents, and our grand children, who are suffering at the hands of a vindictive custodial parent to have visitation laws changed. Mary Brooks PO Box 63 San Miguel CA 93451
# 960:
3:28 pm PST, Jan 21,
Stephen Paul, California
Stephen Michael Paul
Stephen Michael Paul
# 959:
2:48 pm PST, Jan 21,
Name not displayed, California
# 958:
5:27 pm PST, Jan 18,
Linda L Cooke, California
# 957:
5:04 pm PST, Jan 18,
Katherine Brodeur, California
We have been sole caregivers and providers of granddaughter for 8 years from birth. We are the maternal grandparents. Mother would visit daughter and get abusive to her daughter. We told her that the way she treats her daughter when she is with her is abusive, physically and emotionally. Mother took daughter out of her home with us and now lives in a very unsavory place. We fear for her safety. There are registered pedifiles and pit bulls all living in this apartment complex in French Camp, CA. We filed for guardianship and did not get the guardianship. The judge did not even look at our pile of evidence that Mom is not thinking about her daughter. She is thinking about the SDI money daughter gets from Dad. Mother is not with childs father but with another man. My daughter and this man do not work. My granddaughters college money is being squadered by these people. Mother swore in court that she has been the sole provider of our granddaughter. THis was an outright lie. We even had affidavits from several people stating that we were our granddaughters caregivers, not mom. Mom has only taken care of herself and boyfriends, not daughter. We are now being kept away from this little girl who adored us. We love her so much and cannont stand to see what is happening to her. We live in fear. Mother only wanted to regain guardianship because the money daughter gets is the only income they get. They are lazy. Boyfriend has two kids of his own that he left for my daughter and he does not pay child support for them. He claims to be my granddaughters father. My daughter has ruined any chance for my granddaughter to have a normal life. My daughter has never graduated from school and feels this is good enough for our granddaughter. Life must suck for my granddaughter now.
We have been sole caregivers and providers of granddaughter for 8 years from birth. We are the maternal grandparents. Mother would visit daughter and get abusive to her daughter. We told her that the way she treats her daughter when she is with her is abusive, physically and emotionally. Mother took daughter out of her home with us and now lives in a very unsavory place. We fear for her safety. There are registered pedifiles and pit bulls all living in this apartment complex in French Camp, CA. We filed for guardianship and did not get the guardianship. The judge did not even look at our pile of evidence that Mom is not thinking about her daughter. She is thinking about the SDI money daughter gets from Dad. Mother is not with childs father but with another man. My daughter and this man do not work. My granddaughters college money is being squadered by these people. Mother swore in court that she has been the sole provider of our granddaughter. THis was an outright lie. We even had affidavits from several people stating that we were our granddaughters caregivers, not mom. Mom has only taken care of herself and boyfriends, not daughter. We are now being kept away from this little girl who adored us. We love her so much and cannont stand to see what is happening to her. We live in fear. Mother only wanted to regain guardianship because the money daughter gets is the only income they get. They are lazy. Boyfriend has two kids of his own that he left for my daughter and he does not pay child support for them. He claims to be my granddaughters father. My daughter has ruined any chance for my granddaughter to have a normal life. My daughter has never graduated from school and feels this is good enough for our granddaughter. Life must suck for my granddaughter now.
# 956:
6:32 pm PST, Jan 17,
Name not displayed, California
# 955:
6:59 pm PST, Jan 14,
Name not displayed, California
My beloved son died after a 3 month battle with cancer. My daughter-in-law now refuses to return my phone calls and has told a intermediary that she hates our family and that we will never see our grandchildren again. She has made unfounded claims that we never loved our son, claims that are extremely hurtful since son died less than a week ago. We are at a loss to understand where the hatred is coming from. We would like to have a relationship with our son's children and give them the knowledge of their dad's family and traditions. During my son's illness, my ex-husband and his dad, his sister, my husband and I made sure that at least one of us was at the hospital every day for support and love. We hold those moments precious. Now our daughter-in-law claims we never loved our son, we are awful people who should have been with her and the grandchildren, not with our son as he had nurses to tend to his needs. She was diagnosed with postpartum depression and is on medication to help her. She was also told she is likely bipolar. One of the nurses who cared for my son told us that she was a toxic dynamic and would be detrimental to our son's recovery. Since I have few rights in the state of California, my son children (my precious grandchildren) will be told lies about their father's family and grow up never knowing the love we have to give them.
My beloved son died after a 3 month battle with cancer. My daughter-in-law now refuses to return my phone calls and has told a intermediary that she hates our family and that we will never see our grandchildren again. She has made unfounded claims that we never loved our son, claims that are extremely hurtful since son died less than a week ago. We are at a loss to understand where the hatred is coming from. We would like to have a relationship with our son's children and give them the knowledge of their dad's family and traditions. During my son's illness, my ex-husband and his dad, his sister, my husband and I made sure that at least one of us was at the hospital every day for support and love. We hold those moments precious. Now our daughter-in-law claims we never loved our son, we are awful people who should have been with her and the grandchildren, not with our son as he had nurses to tend to his needs. She was diagnosed with postpartum depression and is on medication to help her. She was also told she is likely bipolar. One of the nurses who cared for my son told us that she was a toxic dynamic and would be detrimental to our son's recovery. Since I have few rights in the state of California, my son children (my precious grandchildren) will be told lies about their father's family and grow up never knowing the love we have to give them.
# 954:
6:40 pm PST, Jan 14,
Juanita Nolen, California
# 953:
7:02 pm PST, Jan 13,
Debbie Scott, California
As a grandparent who is going through this tragic and traumatic event right now, I was extrememly upset and disheartened to learn that there is nothing I can do under California state law to make it possible to see my precious grandchildren again. My grandaughter lived half of her life in my home and I had been taking care of the little one two days a week when this happened. Loving grandparents must have rights!!
As a grandparent who is going through this tragic and traumatic event right now, I was extrememly upset and disheartened to learn that there is nothing I can do under California state law to make it possible to see my precious grandchildren again. My grandaughter lived half of her life in my home and I had been taking care of the little one two days a week when this happened. Loving grandparents must have rights!!
# 952:
5:47 pm PST, Jan 13,
Name not displayed, California
my ex husband is a very bitter and angry man. my ex is vindictive and punitive so since my ex was able to get rid of me i want my son to at least be able to see my parents his only living grandparents
my ex husband is a very bitter and angry man. my ex is vindictive and punitive so since my ex was able to get rid of me i want my son to at least be able to see my parents his only living grandparents
# 951:
5:31 pm PST, Jan 12,
MELYNDA CHAMNESS, California
