Reunite Grandchildren and Grandparents in California
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California State Legislature
All across California there are thousands of children who are being denied access and contact with their loving and caring Grandparents (GP). Some of the children have spent a large part of their lives with the GP before all visitation was denied. Many times this is the result of parents involved with drugs or crime.
California law promotes the right of FIT parents to raise childern without government interference. To ensure this 14th amendment right, Family Code 3104(e) assumes that FIT parents will do what is in the best interest of the child. 3104 states that for GP to have visition over the objection of a parent, GP must prove that child will be harmed without GP visitation, a high legal barrier.
The Courts know the inherent goodness a GP relationship can provide and that some parents are denying GP access to children for vindictive, retaliatory, and other reasons not in the best interest of the child.
THIS PETITION will provide a means of rebutting the parents' decision to deny access, if it is based on other than the child's best interest. It will require the mandatory psychological evaluation of both parents and GPs at the initial court appearance. The results will provide the Court with information in regard to the parents' fitness in making the decision and whether or not Court intervention is needed.
California law promotes the right of FIT parents to raise childern without government interference. To ensure this 14th amendment right, Family Code 3104(e) assumes that FIT parents will do what is in the best interest of the child. 3104 states that for GP to have visition over the objection of a parent, GP must prove that child will be harmed without GP visitation, a high legal barrier.
The Courts know the inherent goodness a GP relationship can provide and that some parents are denying GP access to children for vindictive, retaliatory, and other reasons not in the best interest of the child.
THIS PETITION will provide a means of rebutting the parents' decision to deny access, if it is based on other than the child's best interest. It will require the mandatory psychological evaluation of both parents and GPs at the initial court appearance. The results will provide the Court with information in regard to the parents' fitness in making the decision and whether or not Court intervention is needed.
All across California there are thousands of children who are being denied access and contact with their loving and caring Grandparents (GP). Some of the children have spent a large part of their lives with the GP before all visitation was denied. Many times this is the result of parents involved with drugs or crime.
California law promotes the right of FIT parents to raise childern without government interference. To ensure this 14th amendment right, Family Code 3104(e) assumes that FIT parents will do what is in the best interest of the child. 3104 states that for GP to have visition over the objection of a parent, GP must prove that child will be harmed without GP visitation, a high legal barrier.
The Courts know the inherent goodness a GP relationship can provide and that some parents are denying GP access to children for vindictive, retaliatory, and other reasons not in the best interest of the child.
THIS PETITION will provide a means of rebutting the parents' decision to deny access, if it is based on other than the child's best interest. It will require the mandatory psychological evaluation of both parents and GPs at the initial court appearance. The results will provide the Court with information in regard to the parents' fitness in making the decision and whether or not Court intervention is needed.
California law promotes the right of FIT parents to raise childern without government interference. To ensure this 14th amendment right, Family Code 3104(e) assumes that FIT parents will do what is in the best interest of the child. 3104 states that for GP to have visition over the objection of a parent, GP must prove that child will be harmed without GP visitation, a high legal barrier.
The Courts know the inherent goodness a GP relationship can provide and that some parents are denying GP access to children for vindictive, retaliatory, and other reasons not in the best interest of the child.
THIS PETITION will provide a means of rebutting the parents' decision to deny access, if it is based on other than the child's best interest. It will require the mandatory psychological evaluation of both parents and GPs at the initial court appearance. The results will provide the Court with information in regard to the parents' fitness in making the decision and whether or not Court intervention is needed.
We, the undersigned, firmly believe that the world would be a better place if Grandchildren and Grandparents that have been separated unjustly were to be REUNITED.
This separation is very widespread across the country, impacting thousands of lives, all in the name of 14th Amendment rights.
Our Legislative amendment would provide the courts the information they need, at the very begining of a visitation case, to determine if parents are acting genuinely in the best interest of the child, or are disallowing visitation for retaliatory, vindictive, or some other agenda.
If Court interference is needed, it could proceed in a timely manner so children are impacted less from the separation. Presently, it may take years to work through the process. The important 14th amendment would be preserved with the early determination of whether or not Court intervention is needed based on the reasoning of the denial of visitation.
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# 71:
My son's ex allows me to visit my granddaughter, with many restrictions (some of them reasonable). I can't imagine how much it would hurt to not see her at all. Please consider changing the law so that more children can have the love and support of good grandparents. Thank you.
# 70:
My wife and I are upstanding, well-respected members of our community. Our daughter-in-law will not allow us to visit our grandchildren and is not giving us any reason for her decision. Our son supports her because he wants to protect his marriage. We have asked them many times what it is that we have done that would justify cutting us off from the lives of the children (7 1/2 and 4 1/2). They don't respond, which leads us to believe there is not a legitimate reason for ostracizing us. We have asked our daughter-in-law to sit down with us so we can talk and resolve our differences, but to no avail. This is the reason why we are signing this petition, in the hope that grandparents will have rights in California. It's not fair that parents can decide to separate grandparents from their grandchildren based solely on personal dislikes and animosities. Children need their grandparents in their lives.
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Neglectful parents is just as bad as having parents that are on drug or crime. Some do not have business being parents. They do not have the know how and do not have the nurturing parent instinct to be good parents. They use our grandchild as a pawn and as a piece of toy because they have the power to do so. Grandparents have just as much rights as the parent. We are in constantly in battle with our son and daugther in law because they do not give the proper caring and attention to their daugther. They only let us have her longer at their convenience not because they see us as grandparents
# 63:
Grandparents need to be in grandchildren's lives whether selfish children agree or not, divorced or not.
# 62:
My 4 year old granddaughter & I have a very special bond. My access with her is sporadic due to her parents volatile relationship. Her mother ( my daughter in law) has objected to the visits & she'd tried so many times & in so many ways to cut her off from me. I feel so helpless not knowing what to do & so hearthbroken of not seeing my GD as much as I used to but I would not want to give up on her & I truly believe that one day the GP laws will change & will give importance & leniency to our rights as grandparents.
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We have a niece that because of persal conflict with the babies father (who paid and is paying child support for) We are not allowed to see her because of the "new"husbands jealousies. The grandmother and uncle have so much to say about it but do not care for. I cared for her @ birth to 6 mo. while her mother had no sitter
# 59:
I live 10 miles away cannot see her for 6 years.
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# 57:
Not allowed to visit grand-daughter: my son is father and incarcerated, mother of child has denied all requests for visits.
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# 55:
We live in California, my son did not fight for her to take his son to Texas, she had all her family there for support. We would like to see him and have him visit. If she get mad at him, she will not let us see him.
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In two months we are moving to CA to be nearer our grandson and the one on the way. Unfortunately, there is trouble brewing in the marriage and signs that a vindictive daughter in law may end up causing problems. For the first 2+ years of my grandson's life I was a caregiver when my daughter in law worked. I would be heart broken if he were not allowed to see us. Please help protect the love and relationships for the grandchildren who cannot protect it themselves and the grandparents who are powerless. Please pass this law.
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# 51:
I am a Grandparent and it's important for children to have relationships with their grandparent's a foundation based on love,strenght,positive reenforcement,stability,patients and so much more. So manytimes the Mother of these children are bitter and deny grandparent visitation because of what is or is not happening in the relationships of mother and father causing the child to suffer as well as the grandparents.
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My husband and I have five grandchildren living in California. Our daughter has severe borderline personality disorder and bipolar disorder. Her mental illness causes her to deny us visitation at times over the years even though we have co-parented these children since their birth. She is a single parent and we are the main support system for the children.
# 48:
I have a granddaughter in California that I would really like to have a relationship with. Unfortunately I also have a daughter in California who has anger issues and is vindictive. My daughter is using my granddaughter as a way of hurting me. She threatens not to let me see her, she threatens restraining orders, etc. My daughter lies to her attorney about my character, and I feel helpless. Please reconsider this law, as children benefit from relationships with healthy, loving grandparents. Thank you.
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Current victims of the system
# 46:
Speak for the children with the rights and the love they deserve.
# 45:
If anything ever happened to me I would like for my parents to care for my child , since my husband has a mental illness. I would hope the courts would respect my wishes based on his mental illness/history. I believe that grandparents should have a right!
# 44:
I am in support of Grandparents rights. Don't deny my grandchildren the love, support, safety and stability they deserve. Where am I going to live should not be something a 3,4 & 7 yr. old need to worry about when their parents do not provide them with their basic needs. Please support grandparents rights.
# 43:
Please don't deny children the incredible love and support that grandparents can give them!
# 42:
I've worked with children for my entire career. So many have been able to experience safe and secure lives because of grandparents. I have a friend who's grandchildren are living with a paranoid schizophrenic mother who is heavily involved in the drug culture, but who does not want the grandparents to have any contact. The grandparents are the only safe haven for these children.
# 41:
Please provide us the ability to reunite with the child that we love and loves us.
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Both of my grandchildren's parents are mentally ill. I've tried for years to get help for my son and his ex-wife. Until a year and a half ago, the grandchildren spent most Saturdays with my husband and I. Now we go to court a lot and hope to stay in their lives, but our son is in jail awaiting trial and his ex-wife is doing everything she can to alienate the children from us. When my grandson was three, he told us "Mommy hates me." I would love to see drug and mental health screening enter into the court process.
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I am petitioning, due to the fact that I have had close relationship with my now 14month old and 4month old grandsons. And, because the mother of the childeren and I had an altercation her nor my son will allow me to see my grandsons whom I love very dearly. I need help with reuniting with them before they forget who I am.
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My mother grandchrildern have not been able to have any visitation with their grandmother; due to other siblings taking her from the State of Washington and concealing her whereabouts. Their grandmother would never have left Washington State on her own accord witghout knowledge she would be returning, we feel she has been decieved and she is a vunderable adult and we would like action taken to on the same
# 32:
My son and his wife are denying me visitation rights to see my only grandchildren. We had a disagreement over eight months ago and he won't try to resolve this. He is using the children to punish me.
# 31:
I took care of my grandson for the 1st 1 1/2 years of his life, for free. When his mother was pregnant with him and had no where to go, I let her move in with me and my husband, for free. I have always placed my gandson's interests above all others. His mother will get mad at me for something and, out of vendictiveness, not allow me to see my grandson for weeks at a time. He loves his NaNa and his Papa (step-grandfather) and my grandson is the one suffering the most. These kinds of alienation are wrong and should not be allowed. There needs to be some way of resolving these issues legally.
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I have not seen my grandson, who just turned 13, for over two years. This is due to great animosity between my daughter and the father, who now has married and has custody (with his wife and stepmother to my grandson.) I have been attempting to resolve this but so far, nothing has worked.
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683 Stonehouse Dr Apt B Napa, Ca 94558 My daughter-in-law often bans me from seeing my 2 grandchildren. My son and her are still married and he wants me to see them but she tells him she will call the police and tell them anything so that they put him in jail. She has even given herself bruises so that she can claim abuse. She is bi-polar but refuses to take her meds because "I'm ok, everyone else is messed up". Rarely, she is in an up mood and calls me to come see them, but I live 1 1/2 hours away and sometimes she changes her mind by the time I get there. Her reasons for my not seeing them are weak to say the least. Once I called my son twice in one day and she said that I was a pervert and I didn't see my son or grandkids for 3 months. Please help create a better law for grandparents who don't deserve this treatment. Thank you.
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Grand Parental rights are precious and supposed to be cherishable, moments that stay with a grand child long after the grand parent is gone. Most Grand parents have the financial comfort and experience to share un pressured, unconditional "fun" with their grand children. Loving memories and bonding of grandparents like growing flowers in the back yard, picking fruit, etc. going to the zoo, visiting going to church and having wonderful home cooked meals. has to be protected and observed by legislation. Alienation or separation of a grand child and a willing grand parent is wrong and there has to be a legislation interference to protect a grand parent, regardless of the hostile parent. With the over exposure of the diminishing family unit, where a couple loves, marries and stays together for the rest of their lives deterioates represents the lack of respect for basic family unity.
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MY DAUGHTER HAS DENIED HER FATHER AND MY SELF CONTACT ALSO HER SISTER. WE HELPED STACY THROUGH TWO DIVORCES AND MANY BAD RELATIONSHIPS. HER AND HER TWO GIRLS LIVED IN OUR HOME FOR NINE YEARS, ONLY TO HAVE HER DESTROY ALL OF THIS FOR HER NEW MIND CONTROLING HUSBAND. WE HAVE NOT SEEN OUR GIRLS IN SIX YEARS
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On January 20, 2006, my grandaughter was born and has resided in my home with my immediate family under my personal care and support. I cared for her, fed her, held her and have done all the special and wonderful things that grandparents do. On April 6, 2008, my grandaughter was suddenly taken away from all of us due to a conflict between the mother and father. At this time, we do not know where she is and are missing her terribly. We want to be able to see her, feel her and be a part of her life. Please help us accomplish this dream.
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Please pass this law. I just want a chance to go to court to fight for my granddaughter's right to see her grandparents. I miss her so much and I am sure she must feel abandoned by me because her mother puts so many restrictions on if I can even maybe see her. I beg you, please pass the law.
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IMAGINE IF IT WERE YOU. IMAGINE YOUR SON OR DAUGHTER NEVER SPEAKING TO YOU AGAIN AND TAKING YOUR GRANDCHILDREN HOSTAGE. IMAGINE THE IMPACT THIS WOULD HAVE ON YOUR ENTIRE FAMILY. IMAGINE NO MORE BIRTHDAYS, CHRISTMAS, EASTER, SUMMER COOKOUTS, NOTHING. IMAGINE THEY DO NOT KNOW YOU EXIST. I DONT HAVE TO IMAGINE. I LIVE IT DAY IN AND DAY OUT FOR THREE SOLID YEARS. NO MEDICATION, NO COUNSELOR, NO PREIST AND ACTUALLY NO FAMILY MEMBERS WILL HELP YOU. THEY ARE AFRAID TO STAND UP FOR WHAT IS RIGHT. THE GOVERNMENT GETS INTO SO MANY THINGS THEY NEED NOT TO. THIS IS A CRISIS SITUATION THEY NEED TO STICK THEIR HEAD INTO. OUR BABY BOOMER CHILDREN HAVE NO REMORSE OR CONCIENCE THAT THEY ARE KILLING SLOWLY KILLING THEIR PARENT.AND THEY DONT CARE.INDEED WE ARE DYING TRYING TO GET SOMEONE TO HELP
# 15:
I can not imagine a parent denying their child visitation with a grandparent. Yet, I know that many parents have done this and use it to attempt to cooerce their own parents or parents in-law for monetary gain and other manipulative reasons. Grandchildren should not be subjected to, what basically amounts to extortion against the grandparents. I am fortunate that I do not have this problem and I get a fair amount of visitation with my grandchild. However, I support other grandparents and grandchildren who have been estranged due to issues that the parents lack the skills to negotiate. Such parents do not understand the damage they are doing. Denying grandparent visitation should not be adjudicated at the whim of immature parents.
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Please pass this law. A grandparents love is like no other love they should have the right to see and love the grandkids. Please pass the law for me to be able to see my granddaughter again. I have not been able to see my granddughter since my daughter passed away from Leukwmia !!!!!!
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My granddaughter and I were extremely close. I cannot imagine how she feels being unable to see me.
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I would never keep my children from their grandparents, no one has the right in my heart and head to even try.
# 9:
Grandchildren needs the security of the family.
# 8:
This will help to protect children when grandparents file for visitation. It will expedite the psych evaluations of parents who may be unfit. As the law stands now, it can take years before the court orders evals on the parents, during which time the children continue to be harmed.
# 7:
It is unfortunate that this state of California does not allow us grandparents to petition for visitation when other states do allows this.
# 6:
My husband and I have not seen our grandchildren in almost three years now. The Calif law does not permit us to petition when the grandchildren are living in an intact family. we miss them very much.
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As a preschool teacher and director for more over 20 years, I have seen the positive impact grandparents can have on the lives of children. This is even more pronounced in cases of families under stress or with difficult histories.
# 3:
I have three granddaughters that I currently am unable to visit. Two I have not seen for a year now and one for three years. We all live within the same county. It is a shame that is kind of thing happens. My paticlular situation came about when I voiced an oponion over a current events conversation. I had no idea what the consequences of an innocent conversation would be.
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The 14th Amendment is a high hurdle to overcome. Some parents use it as a shield in court even though they may be unfit to make the child visitation decision. It can take years in court to reach this conclusion. That decision should be made upfront to save time, money, and a lengthy painful seperation for the Grandchild and Grandparent. This petition will work toward that end.
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