Stop the bullets where they end lives..."Stop bullets guided by hate & pain"

Only half way through the year and over 20 school massacres here in the U.S. When is enough going to be enough. Every tragedy has wnded in the results of some type of bullying, either by bully or victims of bullies. I look at my kids today and i ask my self is private school or homeschool for their safety and taken them away from society really the answer? We live in a world that we have created to be judgemental, careless, selfish, and blind. There is ALWAYS regrets from not only the survivng victims but the family and peers of those whose lives were taken streaming ACROSS social media and the news. I always see a parent, sibling, school staff member or classmate stating that " only if i would had said something, done something, been there more ..." The signs are always there. NOT ONCE HAVE THEY NOT BEEN. Todays youth are so focused on standing out nomatter the cost, even if its  their own lives. Bullying begins because a child feels the need to be heard or feared. At times children feel neglected,alone, not loved or that they dont belong at home or school.Some go to school and isolate themselves away from everyone, in fear of being embarrassed infront of peers. Others however tend to be loud and crave attention or demand respect.Their attention becomes an addiction to them and some begin to hurt others with simple words, escalading into physically abusing a peer just to get heard or uplaoded to social media. Social media....the number one place for a person to become loved or hated by millions of people world wide. Bullies dont realize the damage they cause nor the nightmare that it will result in. Most parents dont see the change in their chid bc they either dont have the time, don't want to be bothered or refuse to accept their childs corrupt behavior or that their child might need counseling, rather being bullied or the bully.Some of these gunmen have perfect lives at home, and are bullied at school for long periods of time, even after reports have been made they are still not given the proper attention and feel like the torture will never end unless them themselves do something about it. Recently my youngest was being bullied and my heart broke, a child shouldnt have to fear school, he shouldnt be robbed from his childhood memories. I made numerous reports and still nothing changed. His grades droppdd and he became angry. When i thght things were calming down, he was coming home more cheerful and actually talking about friends,it took a turn on me. Come to find out he startsled hanging around some other little boys and started retaliating on the ones that bullied him. Then i see something no parent expects..a suicide video in my youtube history log. My body went numb and my world became blurred. It hit me then that through social media he had taught himself how to retaliate, how to find friends, how to act happy at home, and sadly he was starting to leaen suicide was the only way out. I talked to him, i started to let him see what was on the news about the countless massacres and the damage left behind. He became sincere again, he became hurt, he cried, he said he asked me " mom but why doesnt anyone help them, how do teachers allow this and why dont parents see their are capable to kill?" We talked more and more i started to do more things with him and tell him how special he is to me, how i could never live without him and expkain to him some children hurt others because they are hurt but its no exscuse to allow yourself to be mistreated. I saved my son because i acknowledged his hurt and did not assume his acting out was a stage. I seen his pain behind the anger, and his guilt behind his laugh.I almost allowed my busy schedule to almost possibly take my sons life. Few weeks later i hear my daughter is possibly bullying a child that hurt her cousin. I have always been a firm believer of being there for family. I never thought my child would mis understand my words and possibly grow anger for another peer. She was then sexually assualted by a classmate that was ONLY given a few days lead (detention) then threatened by a classmate because she refused to dance with him, which he was only exspelled. I missed their staffs call but did not pursue to get in contact with me. I find out a week later. I sat her down and showed her youtube video after video after video of all the aftermath of bullying. Stories from the survivors, the families of the victims, classmates of the victims, and suicide videos, effects from bullying. I told her " hate is an emotion, you either upset because you didnt get your way, or your embarrassed,angry or hurt" after watching these videos for a couple of days she was able to understand that it is ok that her cousin feels hurt, hurt is part of life. She understood that no boy nor classmate should have control of her emotions, she understood that parents are ok to open up to, that not everyone is against you, that noone has the right to judge and that no one deserves to be hurt and embarrassed. She has learned warning signs of soemone that is hurt. She knows now that it is in benefit and could save lives to speak up. She know no one is allowed to disrespect her nor her body. She understands now the importance of the words " you are beautiful, worthy , needed, unique, thank you, invited, and loved " are for her siblings and friends. She has learned NOT to be a follower other then of Jesus Christ. She now attends Church and volunteers. As well as uses her upbeat personality to make friends and make other classmates feel part of their class. She has became sort of a bigsister and encourages encouragement. She has learned to appreciate me as a parent and has accepted me as her best friend. When doing wrong now i also take her social media away and that causes her to recognize her behavior and do better. If social media worked for my two children, think of what it can do for other children who are hurt or angry. Why not enforce time out hour a day or even an hour a week to our children? All of the children i have asked have told me there are teachers that allow them to "chill" on their cells as long as they are either not bothered, not too loud and or have their work completed. My daughter is dropped off by or before 8:00 a.m. bell rings half an hour later. That 30 minutes could be dedicated to time where they have to sit, turn off cells, and give their undivided attention to watching videos, listening to guest speakers whom are survivors of bullets guided by pain, families of innocent lives lost. Staff member who survived the nightmare,classmates and parents of the fallen who want to get their stories out and give warning signs that they regret not acknowledging, bullies themselves who have caused pain because they didnt know how to open up or took their anger out on the wrong people and videos of suicide victims, their families and the bullies that are left with the guilt the rest of their lives. We know this will not be enforced at home, so why not take time to be set aside at school. Where most of the pain starts and lives are taken. Social media has become the replacement of many things in our lives, no way around it, why not try it to teach our children how to prevent these tragedies, to report abuse, and to teach them to love and accept people for whom they are. One class period a day, one hour a week, or an extra credit class even,once a month could save hundreds of live. Since America banded the word "God' from schools the violence has escalated to more than 500% When are we going to open our eyes America? How many more lives lost because we woul not give time to whom and when needed? Stop taking the good away from society and teach our kids that LOVE is the answer to anything that has EVER caused pain and sufferring. Eye for an eye, and the World becomes blind. Don't wait until you are gathering in your neighborhood for a candle lighting to try to do something about this. This is our world, these are our future leaders...make a difference and stop bullets guided by pain.