- Signatures: 733
- Goal: 10,000
- Deadline: 8-16-2003
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Support a statutory rebuttable presumption of Shared/Equal Parenting in child custody cases. Bill A3673 (Sidikman) or 2003 predecessor.
| Number | Date | Name | City | State | Comments: |
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| 733 | 11:01 am PST, Nov 11 | John Osborn | Fulton | New York | |
| 732 | 9:36 pm PDT, Jul 28 | Anonymous | South Carolina | ||
| 731 | 9:35 am PDT, Jun 28 | marisela gonzalez | bronx | New York | It takes two parents to raise a child, how can you raise a child every other weekend? A weekly check is NOT enough! The significance of the father is evident in the research. Please let fathers do their part. |
| 730 | 11:53 am PDT, Jun 16 | Eric Bell | Penn Yan | New York | I have spend hundreds of dollars in attempt to fight for equal rights to my daughter. I have never done anything to harm my daughter yet the judge thinks its okay to only allow me every other weekend with her. My ex continuosly is using our daughter in her attempt to be vindictive to myself, and in attempt to hurt me. She doesn't realize that the only one she is hurting is our daughter. |
| 729 | 9:18 am PDT, May 29 | Anonymous | Louisville | Kentucky | |
| 728 | 9:47 am PDT, May 14 | Ginger Geronimo | Birmingham | Alabama | |
| 727 | 1:56 pm PDT, Apr 25 | Penny Luytgaarden | Skokie | Illinois | Parenting requires both parents to raise a child healthy and happy...with an emphasis on healthy! The easiest solution for a judge is not the correct solution if he/she simply does what a lot of judges have done before him/her. |
| 726 | 5:41 am PDT, Apr 23 | Elizabeth Oehrn | Gavle | ||
| 725 | 5:41 am PST, Feb 16 | Lori DeSerio | Marlboro | New York | |
| 724 | 5:17 am PST, Feb 16 | Gary Liano | marlboro | New York | NYS has no rights for fathers. I signed my paternity agreement with my last name. The child's mother agreed and signed it also. Several months go by and I find out she altered the birth certificate and added her last name, but never crossed out mine. I asked Judge Slobod in Supreme Court in Goshen NY to have my name included in all my child's future legal documents since it was agreed to and signed by the mother. Judge Slobod actually lied and stated, it looks like the mother didn't add her name on, but wanted as the last name. It was so blatant that the mother's name was in the margin, not under the last name space as mine was. She even told my attorney that I should have married her if I wanted my last name attached. This even though the document had been forged and filed with my last name attached. The Judges, like Slobod are the ones denying fathers rights and making us second class citizens. |
| 723 | 12:16 pm PST, Jan 29 | Anton Oscar Iorga | Regina | ||
| 722 | 3:30 pm PST, Dec 16 | Janet Barton | Greenwood | Indiana | |
| 721 | 1:50 am PST, Nov 6 | Rachael Noell | London | Kentucky | |
| 720 | 9:09 am PDT, Oct 30 | jim dejager | Alden | New York | There is so much bias in the NYS family courts , believing fathers are non important parents. This is one reason , I will never let my sons marry in NYS ............ |
| 719 | 4:45 am PDT, Jul 27 | Thomas Pirovano | Bern | Armed Forces Americas | Very important! |
| 718 | 11:55 am PDT, Jul 4 | Peter Kucera | South Carolina | ||
| 717 | 2:19 pm PDT, Jun 5 | ed miller | hopewell jct | New York | Time to stop the way women can take the kids and benefit financly |
| 716 | 7:20 pm PDT, May 10 | Lisa Hassemer | Chetek | Wisconsin | |
| 715 | 4:57 am PDT, Apr 24 | Elizabeth Goblirsch | Sinclairville | New York | I have a bit of a different story mostly because I am the mother and my Ex has my son and has alienated him from me. Up and to the age of 12 about the time I moved out and left everything my som was my best friend. Now his father has turned him against me accusations of molestation, abuse and what ever else his sick mind could come up with has been thrown at me. Sometimes I just want to let it go and hope my son will see but then I think I should fight to save my name and to save my son from being with such an evil person. Let me tell you the court system sucks im sure lots of people know. I go for help but im the one that is looked at like I did something.... |
| 714 | 6:35 pm PDT, Apr 20 | Craig Conway | Lewiston | Maine | |
| 713 | 7:39 am PDT, Apr 20 | Anonymous | An email sent to Father for Justice from a young South African girl showing just how harmful alienation is. "My father died two year ago. I never knew him, just about him and only what my mother had chosen to tell me about him. I attended his funeral and saw many people there I had never seen before. I still see most of these people. Some of them had become my best friends since the funeral. They told me how my father fought for my rights to be his daughter when I was a child and too young to understand. My father lost his farm and most of his belongings when my mother divorced him and married one of his co-workers. My mother told me my father was a loser. I cannot remember what my father was like. I just remember his soft voice when he was singing for me. My mother went through four marriages since. I was told that all her husbands were losers…just like my father. I know my mother so well. She is an angry person and she hates the world with a passion. I think she hates me too because I have my fathers eyes and my mother tells me that I am going to become a looser just like my father just because I have too little spirit and aggression in me. I am a softie, just like my father. My friends I made at my fathers funeral don’t think that my father was a looser. They tell me he was a dreamer. He dreamt of having a family and children and a beautiful farm with lots of friends. My father had many friends. They told me that my father gave up farming and that he had spent all his time and money to fight for my rights to be his daughter. My father had even spent a night in jail because my mother accused him of molesting me and would not allow him near me. I remember my mother telling me that I should help her get this looser of her back. She told me my father was too little a man to keep her happy and wanted to take advantage of his little daughter. I was scared that she would hurt me and believed her. I am still scared of my mother. My mother is a very angry person. My friends tell me that my father had never given up on me. They tell me that he had given up fighting a system that he could not change. My father had spent all his belongings on attorneys and advocates none of whom could help him get access to his only child and daughter. In the end, my friends tell me, my father gave up fighting the system and spend his last days hoping that his daughter would just come back to him. My friends tell me that my father was a dreamer and that this dream had kept him alive. I remember that I spend almost my entire youth thinking of my father. I have six different photographs of my father which I had carefully hidden so that my mother would not throw them away. In my angry days as a teenager I often wanted to run away and try and find my father. I know now that I had a kind of invisible connection with my father ever since I was born and that I could feel his presence sometimes. I was too scared to run away though because my mother would abandon me too. My mother very easily could abandon a person. I saw it happen many times. I spend my entire youth dreaming and longing for my father. I went through being a very uncertain toddler to a very rebellious teenager and now had become a very sad adult. My mother just thinks I am a looser like my father. But I am just a dreamer like my father. I am my father’s daughter. I was told by an attorney that when I turn 21 that my father had left me a property. One of his friends (and now also one of my friends) is looking after this for me until then. I don’t want this. I just want what I always wanted and that was to have a father. None of the husbands of my mother were ever my father. They were good men too (not according to my mother though) but they were not my father. I don’t know if I will live to turn 21 because the system had taken away from me what was most precious in my life. I have nothing now. I have no mother either because the system helped to poison her to become the bitter person she is today. When I visited your web-site I was shocked to realize that this system is still the same. The same people in black robes steal riches from desperate fathers, rob children from their inheritances, inspire bitter mothers to abuse their own children to feed their hatred, destroy lives of innocent people, withhold fathers to love their children and children to love them back. I know now how my father must have fought for my rights against a system that he could ultimately not change. You at Fathers-4-Justice are fighting the same system. I will dream for you and your ideals. You will not win because I believe that my father would have been able to do that if that was possible at all. My father was not a looser. If anybody could change this horrible system it would have been my father. He was a dreamer and he was a gentle person but he was also a strong man. I want my mother to know that my father was not a looser. I am the looser, mother…you made me that!" | ||
| 712 | 1:46 pm PDT, Mar 16 | elizabeth andrejcisk | Staten Island | New York | |
| 711 | 2:43 pm PDT, Mar 13 | Milagros Martinez | N Haven | Connecticut | I lost custody of my daughter last year. He's a social worker that works with children. My case went to trail. This man has a drinking problem and a heavy smoker. My daughter's health was the biggest concern for me. She has asthma really bad. Sl! I violated the court orders and didn't send her with him. I did have doctors note and letters with concern. But the judge didn't accept it. She gave him full custody and I only get her 2 weekends a month. My daughter has fallen behind in school and is always very sick. He even has 8 cats in his house. and still drinks and smokes. Who's to trust anymore. My case is a ny case. And just to let you know how sick is the court system, I adopted to girls and rasied them till 21. The court treated me like if I abused my daughter. I don't even drink nor smoke. |
| 710 | 12:25 pm PST, Mar 1 | Anonymous | Minnesota | Even though I am not in this situation , I sympathize whole heartedly with this cause - any one of us could be in this situation at any unforseen moment. I would sure hope I could count on laws to protect the rights of both parents in their involvement with their children. Children should not have to suffer at the expense of feuding parent's immaturity, hurt and anger. | |
| 709 | 11:05 pm PST, Jan 22 | Kim Macnab MD | Albertville | Minnesota | In October we had our last fight - by pushing her out the door to go for a walk (stupid) I got hit with an OFP. I realize now that was planned. On December 19th I was thrown in jail for one nite for sending my kid a xmas gift. |
| 708 | 2:45 pm PST, Nov 6 | David Goodwin | Marlboro | New York | The State and its bureaucracy has hurt many families, despite its stated intentions. It has been a gold mime for lawyers. Approximately 50 Billion dollars goes to the legal bureaucracy each year from broken families. This weakens families communities and children. It needs to be fixed. |
| 707 | 9:45 am PST, Oct 30 | Robert Carson | Elmira | New York | Please hurry this bill along.My daughter and my self are suffering. |
| 706 | 6:56 am PDT, Aug 23 | Kathleen M. Isham | Ithaca | New York | Presumption of joint custody is the only way to protect children of divorce from being used as weapons against the "other parent" and as a means of getting sometimes exorbitant amounts of child support which is used as "income" rather than for the support of the children. Parents should share equally in the care of, and financial responsibility for, their children. The present system allows unscrupulous and immature "women" to use their children as pawns in sick games against the other parent and as a means to avoid their own financial responsibilities. |
| 705 | 12:13 pm PDT, Aug 10 | James Wendt | Kaukauna | Wisconsin | I originally thought that since I was a fit parent who was very involved with my children that I'd naturally be permitted to share my children with my ex-wife. I was very wrong. Every day is a struggle and I have to fight for any time I have with my two children. This is now what I expected and it definitely not good for my children or my ex-wife. |
| 704 | 10:24 am PDT, Jul 6 | wanda imasuen | Brooklyn | New York | |
| 703 | 10:20 am PDT, Jul 4 | Philip H. Burkett | Ridgely | Tennessee | Why do father's end up "visiting" even with clear evidence of being the "good" parent? |
| 702 | 10:32 am PDT, May 22 | mary jo reese | rome | Georgia | My ex husband has succeeded in alienating my 4 children from me. He has also alienated them from their grandparents, aunts, uncles, godparents, and their church. They have no recollection of the loving and wonderful memories with me. Please help. |
| 701 | 5:30 pm PDT, Apr 6 | monique carter | New York | My son is a great father and the childs mother is reckless but my son is getting the raw end of the deal. I support your cause. My son has been taking care of a child that he said is his and the mother of the child said that he is not the father. My son got a court order for paternity and until this day nothing has happened. We are still going to court. What is wrong with these mothers? It is called intentional parental alieniation - Keeping children away from thier fathers. Mothers can be so crule, and using the children as pawns should be agains the law. I will keep fighting to help this innocent child who we love so very much (11 months old). It is very sad that there is no balance with some parents. |
Support Presumptive Shared Parenting Bill A3673
We the undersigned citizens urge the New York State Assembly to immediately pass Mr. Sidikman's Shared Parenting Bill A3673 of 2002 or it's equivalent for the session beginning January 2003. We further urge the entire Legislature and Governor to pass it into law as soon as possible.
Children and Families in New York have suffered too long. This law passed the Legislature overwhelmingly in 1978 and was surprisingly vetoed. Times have changed. 34 years of declining marriage rates, high divorce rates, high out of wedlock birth rates and the resulting social problems prove that what was needed then is even more desperately needed now. The best parent is BOTH parents. Not a Judge, not just one parent if the other wishes also to raise their child.
Our entire society suffers social ills that span the lifetimes of these children denied parents at the whim of just one parent and the court. Scientific, economic and legal evidence all show that to preserve the best interests of children, their civil rights and those of their parents and relatives, the present "winner takes all" custody game, which is rooted in 24 year old legal precedent and is not supported by the last 24 years of objective scientific research must be stopped.
According to Unified Court System reports from the mid-1990's, 97% of custody "awards" were to mothers. This amounts to summary termination of the parental rights of fathers based on gender alone. This mass creation of "sole custody" children has been shown to harm their outcomes. It does not reflect ANY rational basis in science or fact.
Please implement this policy which in many other states has encouraged marriage and reduced divorce. Most importantly it has created futures for children that are similar to those of children from intact families.
Thank you for doing what is best for innocent children and parents who are your neighbors, friends and relatives, despite the cost to the divorce an child custody industry. No amount of money can buy a lifetime of a parent's love and support yet under present policy, NY State routinely takes that priceless gift from children...over 100,000 times per year.
For more information please go to www.silentmajority.info
Children and Families in New York have suffered too long. This law passed the Legislature overwhelmingly in 1978 and was surprisingly vetoed. Times have changed. 34 years of declining marriage rates, high divorce rates, high out of wedlock birth rates and the resulting social problems prove that what was needed then is even more desperately needed now. The best parent is BOTH parents. Not a Judge, not just one parent if the other wishes also to raise their child.
Our entire society suffers social ills that span the lifetimes of these children denied parents at the whim of just one parent and the court. Scientific, economic and legal evidence all show that to preserve the best interests of children, their civil rights and those of their parents and relatives, the present "winner takes all" custody game, which is rooted in 24 year old legal precedent and is not supported by the last 24 years of objective scientific research must be stopped.
According to Unified Court System reports from the mid-1990's, 97% of custody "awards" were to mothers. This amounts to summary termination of the parental rights of fathers based on gender alone. This mass creation of "sole custody" children has been shown to harm their outcomes. It does not reflect ANY rational basis in science or fact.
Please implement this policy which in many other states has encouraged marriage and reduced divorce. Most importantly it has created futures for children that are similar to those of children from intact families.
Thank you for doing what is best for innocent children and parents who are your neighbors, friends and relatives, despite the cost to the divorce an child custody industry. No amount of money can buy a lifetime of a parent's love and support yet under present policy, NY State routinely takes that priceless gift from children...over 100,000 times per year.
For more information please go to www.silentmajority.info
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