Protect Our Children

Please take the time to read this blog and post a comment if you would….And in doing so leave at least your first name and the state in which you reside in your comment. My hopes are that with enough comments I can pass this on to our State Representatives and maybe get some laws changed to protect the future of our children. And if you would also pass this on to the friends on your 360 page and ask them to visit my page and read and post… Thanks for taking the time and sharing your thoughts and feelings.

Today while talking to a friend on my 360 list I realized that we had a concern that needed to be addressed and that we are both concerned about ABUSED children.

I live in the state of Texas and have experienced first hand the abuse and neglect of children and seeing that nothing is being done.

I lived with a woman for about 8 years who had three of the most adorable grandsons. But there was a problem. I had been around these boys who are now 11,9 and 6 since the oldest was about a year old. Through out these years, I watched as they were abused not only mentally but emotionally which in my opinion is more harmful than physical abuse although physical abuse needs to be addressed as well.

During this time her and I filed to get custody of these boys as the mother was doing little to help in their upbringing but she was doing a great job of neglecting them and emotionally abusing them. Instead of gaining custody we lost all rights to seeing them for about 2 years. Now the father has custody although the grandmother is the one that is taking care of and raising them. And now after being away from them as a mother for years she has returned to try to get total custody of them.

Some of the reasons that we filed for custody of them is as follows: There was a day when we went over to pick up the boys for the weekend and the baby was in a diaper that literally fell off of him when I picked him up because it was soiled and full of fesses. The two older ones were running around naked as this was a way of not having them in soiled clothing and having to change them constantly because the oldest and the middle child where about 3 and 5 and still not potty trained.

We had heard from the neighbors how one day the two older ones were drinking water from a mud puddle because they were thirsty and she gave them a box of cereal that they sat on her front porch and ate the whole box that is how hungry they were. As a result of the mother neglected them with nourishment that was needed during this crucial growing stage the children are the smallest in there class and wearing aprox. 3 sizes smaller than normal for a child their age. In fact the youngest is 6 now and wearing a size 3T or 4T in clothing to school.

On several different occasions we report to CPS (Children’s Protective Services) of the neglect and mental abuse that was going on and we got some pretty nasty responses from them of which I am about to go into.

My argument is that this agency when a report is filed with them call the victim and announce that they have a complaint they need to investigate and when would it be convenient for them to come and see the children. Sometimes resulting in a 4-5 day period before they arrive at the home of the children. In this amount of time I could clean and decorate our entire state capital building for a grand gala.

When questioning the children it was always done in front of the parent who was doing the wrong doing. And of course the children wouldn’t talk of any wrong doing as they had been grilled during this time not to say anything. They were threatened with things like if you talk to this person they will take you away and place you in jail till you are 18 or put you in a foster home were you will be beaten and sexually abused. Well with threats like that and only being 6 or 7 , I would of told you that Osama Bein Laden was my best friend if that is what my mommy had told me to say.

During this time she neglected to get the children their shots that were needed at the ages that they were and when the grandmother who now has custody of them retained the custody took them to the doctor the oldest two had to go through a great amount of shots to get them up to date. One receiving like 19 shots in 2 weeks time. Also when they were sick with just a cold we would purchase things like children’s aspirin and cough syrup that the mother would use for her own illnesses sometimes taking a whole bottle of aspirin in 2 days.

The oldest suffers from asthma and yet in 3 years only has an attack when he is stressed out and has to go to his mothers for a weekend. Also when these boys go to her house to visit they return home sick and have to sometimes be taken to the emergency room for their illness.

In the oldest first year of school he missed 42 days of school for no apparent reason and yet since being with his grandmother the last 3 years he has only missed 2 days from illness. All of them are A B students in school as well.

On one occasion in returning from their mothers home they told us of how she place a pillow over the oldest head because he wouldn’t stop crying. We reported it to the police and they couldn’t take the statement from the boys because of their age. And in turn CPS couldn’t do anything because the mother told them that she was just playing peek-a-boo with him. Come on for Christ sake he was 9 years old at the time.

Now she is fighting to get custody of them after 5 years when she just literally walked away from their dad leaving them with him. In the first 2 years she didn’t see them at all and in the last 3 she only sees them when it is convenient for her.

These boys are scared to death because they know the mental and emotional abuse that they suffer at her place. She is constantly threatening them although we don’t know of any physical abuse, the mental and emotional abuse has take its toll.

And CPS tells us that there is nothing they can do because when they go to visit the kids are clean, they have food (although it may of only been bought that day to look good and they may not even get it, and that they seemed happy and content with her. Well they don’t know what she has threatened them with and they are too young to listen to what they have to say without her present. Not even a judge will listen to them because of their age. They told us on one occasion that while at mommy’s house for the weekend that all they had to eat was carrot sticks and raisins. NEGLECT out and out.

When is enough, enough and when are these agencies going to do the job that they are being paid for…..PROTECT OUR CHILDREN. It isn’t until they are seriously hurt or fatally abused that anyone steps in and listens. Doesn’t any one realize that the emotional and mental damage may stay with them for the rest of their lives.

Thanks for reading and listening to me while I stood on my soap box. Maybe with enough signatures we can get some laws changed to protect these children before IT’S TOO LATE

I hope I haven’t offended anyone and I do intend to pass this on to my state representative so please sign and add state of residence…. Maybe we can save 1 child hopefully we can save 360 Thanks again