Help Us Be a Family Again - Bring My Son Home

This Petition is to all who were involved in taking Missouri law and twisting it to fit your agenda. This is also to all the people who love and know our family so they can help us bring my oldest son home. There needs to be a reform in the Social Services Department, not only here but all over the U.S. When you see families that really need the help but don't get it, then there is something wrong. When you take families, that are good people and tear them apart leaving anger, frustration and confusion in your wake, then there is really something majorly wrong. At the bottom of this introduction you will find only part of our story, if you want to know more contact me.
  I am appealing to you.  I need an attorney that is aggressive and is afraid of nothing, especially when it comes to government. I am praying and pleading with you to read this all the way through%u2026 I need my children home with us.It was about the last week of October, we let a family of three move in with us, a mother, dad and 9 year old daughter, because they were being evicted from the house they were living in; later we were told they were 6 months behind in their rent. I let them move in with us despite being told by people they were trouble, but I was willing to give them a chance and this is how they repaid us.Everything was fine for awhile till I started noticing things, the mother is bipolar and the father has the I.Q. of a 16 year old and is a dialysis patient. The things I noticed were when the mother became angry she is verbally abusive and tendencies toward violence, sometimes toward my children. The father became threatening toward my oldest son and became violent with my 12 year old son. Though my 12 year old was in the wrong, Norm, the dad of the 9 year old, shoved my son violently to the ground.   Later on as they were living with us, it was just before Thanksgiving, D.H.S. showed up at our home at 3:30 a.m. with a Stone County Deputy saying there had been numerous calls to the hotline about sexual abuse going on in the home. Later it was told to me by two of our friends that the family who was living with us at the time had made the calls, and that they were still living at our home when they made the calls. Both our friends said that Norm and Shalotta, the mother and dad of the nine year old had told them that they had made the calls. I was also told that the mother, Shalotta had made the grand announcement as loud as she could at our local school, Blue Eye.   I told Jessica Baker that the allegations were not true and in a low tone, which I heard, she said she didn%u2019t think they were, but when I confronted her later she denied saying it. She questioned the children and they also denied any sexual activity going on. She then had me sign a paper saying the kids were safe for now and left. There was a concern about the roach problem and that the kids didn%u2019t have beds, they were all sleeping in the living room together. I told her we had an exterminator coming Wednesday-December 10th and that we were working on the beds, which seemed to satisfy her and she left.Something I noticed is that after DFS showed up that suddenly the family living with us took their daughter Raven to stay with grandma, Marie Lear, Shalotta%u2019s mother/ Raven%u2019s grandmother. Norm said the reason why they did that is because they knew since DFS showed up our place that they would be the next to be visited. Soon after that then they too went to stay at Marie%u2019s, but their stuff was still at our place. Marie lives just on the other side of Blue Eye on the Arkansas boarder. They stayed there waiting for a house they were going to rent after the people that occupied it moved out.Norm said that once they had fully moved in Jessica came to their place and Norm told her that she would be allowed in only this one time but he would not allow her in again unless she came with a %u201CCounty Boy%u201D, (police officer.)

   It was either the next day or day after on December 4th or 5th, she called and wanted the kids questioned by a C.A.S.A. advocate. I resisted at first because I felt it wasn%u2019t needed, there was nothing going on in the house and if there were someone would have told me.It was also that Thursday or Friday that my oldest son, Dakota came home from school angry when I asked him what was wrong he said an eighth grader had beat him up calling Dakota a child molester and that Norm had hired him to do it which Norm denied and said he didn%u2019t know who the boy was. Later when confronted about it again, Norm turns around and said he would speak with the boy%u2019s parents, which got me thinking, if Norm didn%u2019t know the boy how could he talk with the boy%u2019s parents?   I immediately called Jessica Baker and told her let%u2019s have this meeting with C.A.S.A. and get it over with so we could prove all this stuff was untrue. She called me back and had made the appointment for all four of my children and for my husband and I to be questioned at the same time and I told her that we couldn%u2019t do that because all we have is a pick up truck. So then she split us up and a friend of ours took us to the meeting in his van. It was my husband, myself and two of our kids and the other two would be the following day. The meeting was supposed to last, at longest 2 hours. We arrived at 10:00 a.m. and were there till 3:00 p.m.in which I found out some things after the kids were questioned. Why they, the kids, gave the answers they did I don%u2019t know when they were questioned, I don%u2019t if they said something and CASA twisted it around or the kids were led into the answers they gave, but what I did find out was not all total truth. We were talked to by two detectives, Jessica, and two other ladies. We were told that the kids, my 10 year old daughter and one of my twin boys 12, Brandon, had said there was sexual activity going on with my oldest son Dakota, Brandon, Jonathan( twin to Brandon), and Tara, my 10 year old daughter and it was described as to the activity. They also said that there was pornography in the house, which I didn%u2019t know about, but they said I was aware of it.  I told them that I didn%u2019t believe it because there is always an adult at the house all the time and if something wasn%u2019t right we would know about it. I wasn%u2019t aware that the pornography was in the house because it belonged to the Adair%u2019s, the family living with us, and had I been aware of it I would have kicked them out of the house. The kids know I don%u2019t allow it and we don%u2019t even discuss it in the house.          After they had questioned Tara, the CASA advocate ushered Tara into another room toward the front of the office where they questioned her some more and made her draw or color pictures. I was told at the beginning that when they questioned the kids that it would be video taped but have not seen these video tapes and when Tara was ushered into the other room there was recording that I know of. 15-20 minutes later two detectives came in and at the same time they had Brandon back in a room where he was being questioned. They told me Tara could leave any time she wanted.  Norm was always sending explicit texts on my phone which when I started reading them I would immediately delete because stuff like that disgusts me. Anyway by the time it was all said and done I had lost my kids and was forced to sign them over to the state. I was told that if everything met their criteria that they%u2019d be home later that week, Friday at the latest, till I received the phone call from the juvenile officer and said it had to go to court first, which no one had told me. They had decided the kid%u2019s fate long before the phone call. The kids stayed with some friends of ours till that following Thursday and Dakota went to a psychiatric hospital, because of the accusations that were made against him. They said it was because of the house and the condition it was in but I was told later by someone else it wasn%u2019t the house but the accusations.    We did work on the house and Jessica said she wanted before and after pictures of the house and pictures of the cleaning supplies, which I did take photos, but at the meeting that Friday no one even mentioned wanting to see the photos. One other thing is the issue about the beds for the kids. DHS said they would help us get the beds then turn around and tell us it%u2019s our responsibility to get them. We went to Christian Associates, at DHS%u2019s suggestion, to finds beds but they didn%u2019t have anything. We%u2019ve been all over and there are no beds we can afford.   I was told that if the house met their requirements that the kids would be able to come home, but they didn%u2019t tell me it had to go to court first, because the next day I was called by a juvenile officer that we had a court hearing the following Friday. We showed up at the hearing but were late because we weren%u2019t told exactly where we were going. We were only late by 5 minutes, during that time the kid%u2019s fate had been sealed. I had called Jessica to ask where the court room would be, what number it was and all she would say is she wasn%u2019t sure. We arrived at the court house and asked where it was and the receptionist said she would call the room and let them know we were there. We then go upstairs to the 2nd floor and are ushered into a meeting room adjacent to the court room. There again we were either lied to or told half truths. The juvenile officer told my husband and I, had we opened a case we wouldn%u2019t have lost the kids, which was not told to me when Jessica came to our home that day, nor when Jessica called later did she tell me that, but because I resisted that is why we don%u2019t have the kids. They said Dakota would be transferred to a juvenile facility and that if we meet the criteria before the hearing in February then the three kids, Tara, Jonathan and Brandon would be able to come home but only on a trial basis. They even recommended we hire a criminal lawyer because DHS has us labeled as criminals. They are taking the side of a 9 year old child who has the reputation as a chronic liar; as are her parents.   The reason why I say they are liars is, one, when DHS showed up, Norm said that one morning before he left for Dialysis that he would speak to a couple of his cop friends, including one that had arrested him a few days before all this happened and he said he would have them try to pull some strings with Sheriff Richard Hill to see if the situation could be taken care of. When he came back from dialysis he said he spent all morning on the phone and that everything was fine. He had said that he had talked to Sheriff Hill and he had told him he wasn%u2019t doing his job and said something about that it was people like Norm that voted Mr. Hill into office and that is the reason he was in office. Norm even said that Sheriff Hill had put a restraining order on this address so that calls about this address would be stopped.  I was grateful for Norm%u2019s help and even gave him 20 dollars for the time spent on the phone. But the next day I had my suspicion that he was lying to me again and told him that I was going to speak to Sheriff Hill to see exactly what was going on, and then Norm denied even speaking to his so called friends or to Mr. Hill. He just shrugged and said that he had been coming and going so much he couldn%u2019t remember what he did the day before.   There was also a time with the mother of the 9 year old that she said Dakota had gotten in Marie%u2019s face, Marie is the grandmother, Shalotta%u2019s mom, that Dakota had said that he told her he wanted Shae and Norm out of the house because they were in the way and that he didn%u2019t like Norm because he was constantly causing problems and that Dakota had been texting Marie harassing her about he wished that they%u2019d move in with her and they needed to get out. I looked at my son%u2019s text messages and there were no texts to Marie. I know this by fact because I looked at the text messages and their dates and I also saw that the texts were all to my husband while I was at our church working on a Christmas project and the last text was a short one because it took all the air time left. Dakota hadn%u2019t sent any text messages to Marie like Shae said.

   Just recently I found out that Raven Adair, the 9 year old was the promiscuous one, when my husband had noticed things were too quiet. He went to investigate and found the nine year old with her pants down in the bedroom that her and her parents were sharing at our house. She hurriedly pulled them up and said, %u201CWhat, we%u2019re just watching Scooby Doo.%u201D The door was closed and it was her, Ryan, a boy she has a crush on, Dakota and Tara. John, my husband said that they were clothed except Raven and no one was touching each other.

   There was a time before that; Raven had taken one of my daughter%u2019s books, %u201CEloise%u201D and drew boobs and the private parts below. I wish I had kept it now. I told her I wouldn%u2019t tattle on her and tore it up and threw it away, but if she did it again I would show it to her parents and take a chance on being on the receiving end of their wrath. But because it%u2019s their daughter, any time you tell on her they went nuts.   Dakota is at a psychiatric hospital in Springfield, which now he has been transferred to a boy%u2019s ranch in Joplin, and we have been talking with a psychiatrist in Springfield, and she had said that in her notes from the DHS worker that we knew of the sexual activity and that we were, my husband and I, were involved which I strongly denied, and we aware of it going on, which when I confronted her about it later in a conversation she denied having said it and I have two witnesses that heard her say it. She also said later she had nothing from DHS and then further on in the conversation she was referring to notes she said the social worker had told her.  There is also another discrepancy as far as this new worker who has been assigned to our case. Her name is Dynee Johnson, she told me that the kids would stay in the county if she could find temporary foster care and they were taken to Aurora, Missouri, 40 to 45 miles away. I was also told when I called her I would be able to see my kids but only through supervision at the DHS office in Aurora. She would call me and let me know when would be a good time through the foster parents. It%u2019s December 24, 2008, 3 weeks since I have seen Dakota and now it%u2019s been two since I have seen or heard from Tara, Brandon and Jonathan. I even gave Dynee a number for which the kids could call us when they wanted to, it%u2019s now Christmas day and I haven%u2019t heard anything. It%u2019s now been 2 weeks and I still haven%u2019t heard from her. I can%u2019t even see Dakota at all.    Recently talking to Dakota over the phone about a week ago, they won%u2019t even let him talk to our pastor whom he wants to talk to unless he has permission from the juvenile officer and DHS. Dakota said there is one meeting he won%u2019t participate in because he doesn%u2019t understand what is going on and he is getting counted off because of it. The incident that was called to attention about Dakota licking %u201CTara%u2019s pee pee%u201D as Raven put it is the truth and he admitted to touching penis with his brother but he said it only happened that one time and has never happened again. He still strongly denies touching Raven at all except in horse play, but she was constantly after him and wouldn%u2019t leave him alone. The hospital has Dakota thinking that I would never trust him again or love him the same again because of what he has done, which is totally false. My love, if nothing else has gotten stronger for him, because I believe him and he needs, we need, to be together again as a family.Tell me, if everything is as bad as we are being told it is; would his brothers and his sister want to be with him. They want him with the family, when we become a family again. They told me they miss him and love him. If all this were true, would the kids be doing as well as they are in school, straight A and B students, loved by their teachers and get along great with them and their peers in school. They have %u201Cfriends%u201D in the neighborhood; would we be supported by so many people? This whole thing is based on one big lie; Dakota molested Raven and has been molesting his sister and his brothers, according to Raven and her parents.  In my mind what he did does not constitute molestation if it only happened that once. Molestation is a constant thing, happening over and over. I know, I was there as a child; by a family member.    I was sent a letter recently by the 39th Judicial Circuit Juvenile Office about the allegations about sexual molestation taking place between the kids, which is completely false. I am keeping everything from all this. I was aware of one incident because the 9 year old came out of the bathroom shouting at the top of her lungs like she always does when she can%u2019t wait to tell on the kids. I confronted both Dakota and Tara and they both denied it. I and John chose to ignore it because we thought it was another one of Raven%u2019s lies because the girl is a habitual liar. I became angry and walked away from Raven, what I really wanted to do was slap her and couldn%u2019t do anything because her father was standing there, that is why I didn%u2019t take any action concerning Raven%u2019s %u201Cgrand announcement.%u201D    Shae, the mother said that Raven was really traumatized by what Dakota did to Tara, she told my husband this and I%u2019m thinking how could that be true since she is living with parents that are filthy mined and mouthed all the time, it%u2019s all they talk about and also with the pornography in their possession. They also drink and smoke pot and Raven knows this. Before they moved in with us, one evening at their house, I went to cook dinner for Norm because he wasn%u2019t feeling well and their place was a disaster, dirty dishes everywhere, molding food on the dishes, refrigerator had molding food in dishes and take out boxes everywhere; plus ashtrays over flowing in the living room, medicine bottles scattered on the dinning room table, dog fesses and pee all over the floor, dirty laundry on the floor in front of the washer. The whole house was a mess and made me want to throw up. Yeah, my place was a mess when Jessica showed up that morning at 3:30 a.m. but not like theirs was that day when I was there and their house was like that all the time. Shae is never home, she works at Steak and Shake in Branson and she works all day most of the time, and then she gets off and goes immediately to school at Vatterot in Springfield. The dad is rarely home at least when they were living with us. He was all over the place and Raven stayed with us. I was a built in babysitter. The parents are verbally abusive toward Raven, constantly yelling at her and only saw the dad hug his daughter once and then he pushed her away. In school, the girl rarely gets her work done unless someone is standing over her. She%u2019s failing in school, has missing assignments, hates her teachers, and is constantly getting into trouble. While living with us, the parents wanted me to tutor her but whenever we would sit down to work her parents would take her places, very rarely was I able to help her with her work.

The letter for the hearing also said that I allow Dakota to watch pornography on the internet, which also is false. One, we haven%u2019t been on the internet for 6-7 months and when we were on the net none of the kids were not allowed to watch pornography on the computer. If they accidently hit a pornography site while doing research they immediately got off because they know we have a 0 tolerance for that kind of stuff. The computer is constantly monitored when they are on it.

   Tynee, who has taken over the case while Jessica has been removed, has been gone out of town for a long while and I have been told that a social worker had been assigned to take over the case; but however I wasn%u2019t told that until my oldest son told me the last I talked to him.   I also spoke with Sheriff Hill and told him that an investigation hasn%u2019t been conducted and I wanted him to do it and he said he would send a deputy or detective to our house to speak with us, I even gave our physical address so he would be able to find us. Well, neither showed up the next day and I received a call from Sheriff Hill the following day after that, he had spoken to DFS and he was taking their side. I was told by one of the police officers of Stone County, that an investigator should have been assigned to this case and he couldn%u2019t understand why our side of the story wasn%u2019t being told.   I have been told that there is crooked politics behind all this. Dakota is not a child molester and this has only happened once and the other kids are not intimidated by him. When they get into arguments I%u2019ve seen them hall off and hit him, so they aren%u2019t afraid of him. If something about each other aggravates them they don%u2019t hesitate to tell me. Yes, what they did was wrong, but it%u2019s not a Federal offence. It%u2019s not about the house

and yes it was a mess because there were 10 people I had to clean up after, I was at the church working on a Christmas project for the church the day before the social worker had shown up, my pastor can vouch for that, and I came home late that evening. I was tired and had planned on cleaning up the following morning when everyone was gone and yes we had roaches but I told her we had an exterminator coming, she even wrote it down.

   We%u2019re being treated like criminals when in all actuality we are being victimized by the system.   It hurts so badly to know we won%u2019t be together on a holiday that is meant for family. Being torn apart at Christmas the most important holiday of the year has torn us apart in more ways than one. We didn%u2019t even put up a tree because the kids aren%u2019t here.   Like I said earlier, DHS has us as criminals when the real criminals are considered the victims, there is no investigating going on, no leg work, no more questioning, to them it%u2019s over and done with. If we were truly criminals would I be fighting so hard to bring my children home, all of them? Please help us.

   I know this letter is long but I wanted you to read every detail of what has been happening and hope that you will consider fighting for us to get our children back, they don%u2019t deserve this treatment by the government and neither do we. Please help make us a family again. Thank you. All this is the truth down to the last detail.ADDED NOTE: December 26th, I called information to get the number of the foster parent who has Brandon, Jonathan and Tara. I had been calling Tynee for two weeks straight to get the number and the only reason why I called information for the foster parents number was my calls were never answered. I took it upon myself to find out if I could get the number and I did. I hadn%u2019t talked to my kids for over two weeks and was getting tired of being put off. I called and the foster parent refused to let me talk to them until she had talked to Tynee, so she made me call back in five minutes which I did. I was told before I talked to them not to make them any promises, which in my opinion tells me they are going to hang onto the kids for as long as they can. I talked to each one for 3-5 minutes and asked them how their Christmas went and what the received. They each received CD players, Tara received a Barbie doll and a Hannah Montana CD, and Brandon received a CD player and some sort of robots. Then the kids told me that the foster parent had taken them shopping for more stuff. I was also told they hadn%u2019t been in school since their arrival at the foster parents home and earlier I was told by one of the DFS worker that the kid%u2019s records had been transferred to their new school, so if that%u2019s true, why aren%u2019t they in school? Brandon and Tara both asked when they%u2019d be coming home and I told them it may be a while but they would be coming home. I asked Brandon if he missed us and he said sort of, which tells me that they are brain washing our kids and Lord only knows what they are telling them and they are bribing them by buying them anything they want. They don%u2019t miss us because they are being bought things. True, we can%u2019t afford to buy things at their every whim, but it also teaches them to appreciate what they have. There was no I love you or that they missed us. I know there is more going on behind the scene than what we are being told.

 This a letter I sent to our local news station but didn't receive a reply. I was hoping that she would air our story so we could find a lawyer who would handle our case. I made the mistake of doing something nice for someone and ended up getting burned. I still want to fight this. We do have 3 of our four children back but the state refuses to give my oldest back. He is at a Boy's Ranch in Joplin, Mo.