Child support and Child Protective Services

Are you against DEADBEAT PARENTS???? I am!!!
Current mood: annoyed
Category: Life

Hello, My name is Bobbie Jo and I am from Indiana.. I am trying to fight a never ending battle with my childsupport.. My ex is 30,000 behind on his support and I keep having to hire a lawyer to help me enforce my support payments.,... I have went to the childsupport divsion in my County and paid my $25.00 to have them enforce it for me, but this has got me no where...I have contacted everyone, the courthouse, probation officiers, senator, State Representative, Congressman, Oprah, Channel 5, ect.. You name it,  I have tried to get help to enforce everything my kids are entitled to...   I was told by the Senator Johnny Nugents office to start a group of people that are going through the same crap that I am going through... I was also told by my ex-husbands probation officer that my case is 1 out of 500 cases and just because he is one payment or 50 payments behind she was not going to do anything about it. Also I have contacted State Representative Robert Bishoff many times and when he has contacted this so called courthouse here in the County they have lied to him....They told him that they was enforcing the laws and going to file the paperwork that he was violateing his probation.. I would go down a week or so later and there would be no paperwork filed in the courthouse...  SO if you are affected in any way by this either directly or indirectly, please email me your story at againstdeadbeatparents@yahoo.com.. I would love to hear your story and what you have gone through trying to fight for what is supppose to be enforced through the system.....I would like to get as many people together  along with their stories and take it to the General Assembly for our Legislators to hear and try to get them to enforce NEW Laws that actually get the deadbeats to pay... SO if you are interested in making a difference in this world, please email me at againstdeadbeatparents@yahoo.com.  I think one thing that would be great is if they made those deadbeatparents drive around with a lisence plates that actually read "DeadBeatParent" just like they in OH make the people with too many DUI's drive around with....Any suggestions on how to punish these deadbeats are greatly appreciated.. Hopefully if we start sticking together and get enough people together through email, WE can get what our kids deserve... JUSTICE..
Just want you all to know I am just one person and if we don't start sticking together for what we believe in then nothing is going to get done...Recently I have been "accused" of child abuse in this small minded county of mine.. I have got my kids taken away from me, and they have put a no contact order against me.. ME! The one that has been there everyday since my kids birth fighting the system everyday for what I know is right... Let me tell you that they arrested me and put two counts of charges against me but the truth will come out in the end...I guess this is one way to try to get me to stop fighting for what I believe in..This siuation has made me aware that they will go to no end to get me to stop being a thorn in there butts, but won't take the time to do their own jobs....I am not here to preach about GOD, but I do know that he will take care of these people for what they have done...What I know is right and should be corrected.. I want each and everyone of you that read this to stop and think.. This could be you one day...I need and want people to stand beside me and fight for our rights and what should be enforced with out going through 1 minute or 10yrs of heartache...Who wants to stand up for our rights? For our kids rights? Our parental rights? The rights to be able to walk down the street and not be afraid to make a stand with our neighbors, friends, family and  even a total stranger?

41 days
Current mood: sick
Category: Friends

Well, today is 41 days since I have seen my children or had any contact with them.....Talk about feeling like you are slowly dieing.. I feel like my kids are on dental floss and I can not reach out to save them.. It is amazing how certain people have the right to just destroy another person or famlies lives and then be able to sleep at night... For the past 10 years since the birth of my daughter and son I have been there fighting for that happy life every day. .I have tried to think Positive and to live each day 100%.  I, myself as a parent is always  pushing myself to strive to excellence and to give my children that life most people could only dream of..
Wednesday, March 7th I took my children tubeing at Perfect North Slopes...Perfect night for everyone to get together and have a fun filled evening.. A time to relax and act like a kid again and to enjoy the most precious moments of your childrens lives.. Their Childhood.. Well, let me tell you it was an awesome night!! My son is 100% boy and did he have several wipe outs.. Scared? Yes I was the first few times he came barreling down the hill and fell off his tube and then tumbled the rest of the way till he laid there not moving... Just as we would run to see if he was alive, he would jump up and give us the "thumbs up" and run back up the hill to just do the same again and again... You don't really think about the acts that could cost you the rest of your lives together..
Thursday March 8th, Kids get home from school, call from the school on the answering machine saying Jacob is getting into trouble again at school and on the bus. This is going to be his last warning before he gets kicked off the bus.. A note from his teacher stating that she needs his report card signed and returned. (Something I still have not seen sent home). As any parent in this situation in the past few months, I have taken his tv, vcr/dvd, playstation and several other items away from him and at this point there was nothing else to take from him.. So I talked to him and we had decided that he needed to have a few spanks on the butt. So this night he received a few spanks on the bottom, and was suppose to go to the table and write his spelling words 20X and then shower and go to bed for the night with no TV time.
Friday, March 9th I was at work and thinking about the weekend.. It was our "Friday" Family night and these nights come every week and every week we do the same,  get 4 movies, 2 pizza and then we get our blankets and curl up on the couch together.  This Friday is like no other a family could experience.. Just as the clock turned around 3:30, I get a call at work from a lady yelling she is from social services and yelling at me about how I am beating my children and that she needs me to come to my house immediately since they are there waiting on me to discuss... OH BOY  talk about wanting to scream.....So I decided to take off work and call my parents to pick up the kids and bring them to the house so that we can get this taken care of.......Just as I pull into my road to meet with these people my mother calls me to tell me that she is at my babysitters to pick up the kids and there is several police cars and two woman that have pulled my kids into another room at my sitters and that I need to get up there right away. So as I turn around to go to my babysitters I notice that there are 2 police cars sitting in front of my house... OMG!!!  WHAT THE HECK!!!
As I arrived at my babysitters I notice my son running out of the house telling me that there are people inside telling him to say this and say that and that they are telling him that they are going to take him away from me.. What kind of people would tell a kid something like this??? I tell him everything is going to be alright and lets go inside and get this taken care of.. Just as I open the door to let him in the house a woman pushes him aside and comes screaming at me in my face...Calling me everything but a white woman and yelling I am beating my kids.. What kind of professional would do something like this at a babysitters house with several other young children there scared to death. Yes I was mad, steaming but what kind of parent in their right mind wouldn't be????  Did they want to call anyone I went tubeing with and get their side of the story? Did they take anyones number down and talk to them?? HECK NO, they want to accuse me of all this bogus crap and send me to jail and take my kids away from me...WHY? Just because they can and have the right to do whatever they want when ever they want....
March 9th 2-3 hours after trying to get ahold of my lawyer (still at my sitters house)to find out what my rights are, They tell me they are taking my kids from and there is nothing I can do.  I get arrest, go to jail (Never read my rights at any point)and be put in the holding tank until my paperwork comes to tell me what I am being arrested for... Saturday morning about 2 or 3 a.m. the guard opens the door, not to tell me anything but I am getting a roommate for the night....Drunk chick that was in a bar fight has to sleep in the same room as me.. Let me tell you this was not a room that 2 people could sleep in and still breathe....It had one cot, toilet, sink, desk and stoole in a maybe 8 X 10 cell... I give her 2 very thin plastic mats so that she can sleep on the floor... We awake after a few hours to her telling me she has pissed all over herself throughout the night... She makes a phone call and gets release a few hours later.. When she did leave I asked the guard if he was going to take the mats that she pissed all over out since the stink was building in this small room and making me feel  sick at my stomach...NOPE not till you leave was his response as he closed the door.... This was not a good weekend to go to jail, I was starting my period on Saturday and had asked several guards several times if I could have some pads or tampons.. After several begging request I did receice 2.. Two freaking small mini tampons!!!! Those was not going to last very long...
Sunday morning March11, still no guard could tell me anything about anything about where or when my paperwork would be in.. Later in the afternoon one of the guards came and finally told me I was going to be in there till Monday morning due to the arresting officier putting another charge on me.. I begged several times to have more tampons, but NO ONE brought me any. They refused to let me bathe, have soap to wash my hands, deodorant or anything to get rid of the stink that was in this room......
MOnday March 12th finally around 3:30-4:00 I get to go infront of a judge to plead NOT GUILTY only to find out that they have put a no contact order against me and my kids.. This means I can not call, talk, visit or have any kind of indirect or direct contact with my children....I am also being requested by the courts to see a phychologist for my anger problem.. ANGER PROBLEM??? I think someone should see a phychologist for not being angry when someone is ripping your children, your life away from you kicking and screaming....... So day by day I am waiting for the day to ever be able to speak, hold, or visit with my children....  This is the most difficult thing a person, or a whole family could go through...

Todays parental rights
Category: Life

Just wondering who on my friends list has the nerve to help me stand up to the law makers that have taken our parental rights away?  If you are one of my friends then you know the situation I am talking about...I am looking at 6 months to 8yrs in jail  for my son being a natural 8yr old 100% boy and I am getting the blame for allowing him to have fun and get bruised...So who cares enough to not just stand up for my rights but for all of our rights??? I really don't want another family to ever go through what I am still going through..

Monday, June 11, 2007

95 days
Category: Life

Tuesday, June 12, 2007

Classes
Category: Life

Well, last night, went down the drain about 1/2 way through the class.. They separated the kids and the adults into 2 different rooms.. Parents watched a video of a guy planting a blue spruce tree and was saying how if you nuture, water and talk to it, it will grow to be a big strong tree one day...

After the video the lady next door came in and said Jacob had an accident... YEAH he did, he shit himself, cause the women told him he had to wait to go bathroom even though he told them he needed to go really bad..

I was furious!!! They told us that we couldn't take him home which was about 6 blocks away and let him shower, instead we had to go to the bathroom and put him the sink and try to get as much of it off as possible... THANK GOD!! My mom had a pair of my daughters pants in her car.. After washing him the sink, and his clothes we put my daughters pants on him and had to go back in the classroom to learn more about nuturing.. .Jacob was so embarrassed and wanted to go home.. He said he felt gross, which I am sure he did..  How is that for a nuturing class.............Make a kid wait to go bathroom, shit himself, and tell him to wrap towels around himself so he can sit back in the class.. That to me doesn't sound very nuturing at all.....Pretty freaking gross if you ask me...

Thursday, July 19, 2007

Kicked out of Nuturing..stuck in a alcoholic/crack addict group ...
Category: Life

As most of you know, I have been told not to go to anymore nuturing classes due to all the crap they have put my kids through while in the classes... My son got threaten one night along with being refused 4X's to use the bathroom resulting him having an accident 2 in his pants.. Another night my daughter was threatened by one of the children in the same family saying he was going to choke her and beat her head on the table. What a nuturing class that was, doesn't sound very loving to me.. It showed their true colors when they called me and my mom in to a room and said this is what happen and this did not happen.. Telling us that what we seen and witnessed with our own two eyes was incorrect...I did ask the other parents that were there that night if they want to be a witness to all of this and if they would testify for me in court. I do have their names and numbers.. I can't wait till I finish my book I am writing on the dealings with trying to get the law enforced..  I just got another chapter with all the current issues going on..  I do  know GOD is standing next to my side in all of this, this is what has made me strong enough to deal with stupid/crooked people.. I am still waking up everyday and trying to think positive thoughts, for at the moment that is all I have to wish..I thought I would drop a blog and let everyone know what is going on...Hope all is well in your lives, and I pray everyday that something happens in the system where no other family has to ever go through what mine is..
They signed me up for a Intervention class I have to go twice a week for an hour each session, this will last 18 weeks. Most of the people in my class is either an alcoholic, drug addict, which they all still have their children..There is another person in this class that is just going so he can stay out of jail for an hour longer.. Go figure!! I don't understand that concept of allowing someone that is addicted to drugs to be able to keep their kids. There is all men in this class, except one other woman and myself. Supposely there is a new law in IN, which I was not aware of,but they were talking about it last night. I guess if you get into a domestic disturbance even if your kids are not around at that time, you can have them taken away... I don't quit understand this, but thought I would bring it to the attention to all my friends...... This is a class where they want me to admit I am and have been wrong so that they look good in the courts eyes...I know how my true feelings are and have always been.. I believe in the law, maybe not in the law where I live but I know not evey part of the system is this out of wack.. I have as most of you know been trying to enforce my back child support... The courts will not even look at that while this case is going on...Even though he is on 7-years probation and has missed several payments since his release, putting him up to over $30,000 behind in support..... He can walk around with his head held high and pay only when he wants or feels like it.. This alone is a crime and a crime that they the court systems have allowed to go on...I am still wanting to see who my real friends are and who wants to make a stand with me in Washington on August 18th... I will be there waving my sign high and fighting for our rights as parents and as Americans of the United States...So who wants to stand up for what is right and what should and should be done in America? I am tired of sitting back and allowing higher up to tell us what we should do and shouldn't do in our own households...Positive Thoughts make for happier days....

If you believe that the laws need to be changed please put signature on this petition...If you have any thoughts on what should be done, please email me or comment on here.. Thank you for the time you took to at least read this....